Esther Perel : Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved

Esther Perel at TED2015  (transcript)
Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved
Summary
First, I didn't know what to do after reading this story.
I'd thought that many people must have thought that it's not wrong to have an affair!! No, no, no!!

I've understood that the speaker just must want to make her TED talk have fun. It's because she is a professional and an expert to study about infidelity and she cures a lot of patients who are suffering from not only their partners have affairs but also they themselves have had affairs surprisingly, so this is the story that is talked for anyone who has ever loved to rethink infidelity.

The speaker doesn't tell us that it's right or wrong. Just people want to decide it, we don't understand about it well or in the first place, we don't understand why there are rules of marriage, infidelity and our trait. The definitions of an affair that the speaker like are a secretive relationship, an emotional connection, and sexual alchemy. With those and the era which entitles us to pursue our desire with straying tendency allows us to be happier. It’s difficult to stop it.

The example of the speaker using words "a patient of cancer" really shows our behaviors,  I first thought why cancer appeared, though. Various studies have revealed people's desires again, so all of us who are patients have tremendous bad desires biologically.

The conclusion of the speaker is that affairs are thought about hurt and betrayal, though, it's not the end and with growth and self-discovery, you would like to create a second one!

What an uncomfortable conclusion it is!!

Words in this story
monogamy /noun/ the practice or state of being married to one person at a time.
infidelity /noun/ adultery, immorality
affair /noun/ an event or sequence of events of a specified kind or that has previously been referred to. a love affair.