Andrew Solomon 3: How the worst moments in our lives make us who we are

TED 2014
Andrew Solomon 3: How the worst moments in our lives make us who we are (script)
Summary
What the speaker figured out from his big struggles was that you can build your meaning and identity, even if you are in unusual situations. So you don't find your meaning but you can forge your meaning.
However, all of you are with stigmatized identities that we don't agree but there are many people who confiscate our humanity.
However, the stigmatized identities: your gender, sexuality, race, disability and being a political prisoner, involve entering you to draw strength from you, and to give you strength also.
 When you start to tolerate them, you can see progress and reverberation to others. They are the foundation of identity. You forge your meaning and build your identity, even if you are at the worst moment.
It gives you the power and joy, it makes you what you are, and it can change you and anything.
Forge meaning and build your identity. It can't change anything.
Words in this story
forge / make or shape (a metal object) by heating it in a fire or furnace and beating or hammering it.
confiscate / take or seize (someone's property) with authority. pick up, take up
preordain / decide or determine (an outcome or course of action) beforehand.
torment  / agony, suffering, torture, pain
tolerant /adj/  tolerance /noun/  generosity, allowance
tolerate /verb/  allow, permit, condone, accept, swallow
reverberation / echo