Keiichiro Hirano : Love others to love yourself

Keiichiro Hirano at TEDxKyoto (In Japanese with English subtitles)
Love others to love yourself (Transcript.)
Summary
I couldn't agree with this idea of the speaker somehow and honestly, so I've never thought that I have to love myself, especially I don't want to think that it starts loving myself when I love someone who I really love. It won't be selfish. The start should be loving others.
"As", and even "One friend" are not necessary to feel. It's not a person also.  I don't say that loving yourself is not needed.
I think that you can't feel loving yourself when you really love others or you have been diving into something without thinking anything.
I love my job and I have a person who I really love, however, the reason is not to love myself but there are people who are glad because I do. It's only that. 

P.S. l searched for who he is after writing this.
He has been a famous writer who’s published some novels that won prizes. Those are L'Eclipse and Dawn that l couldn't finish reading because l didn't understand well.
However, his new story “At the end of the matinee” that is going to be made into a movie was different. It made myself convince. l thought that his thought must start from opposite sides and l might have to rewrite my summary.

The story said.
“You are convinced that you can change only your future, though, you can change your past, in fact. Your future is always changing your past. It can be said that it's changing the past and it ends up changing. Your past is delicate like that and it's emotionally sensitive, isn't it?

No one told me that and l didn't have a thought like that, however, we must experience often.
Actually, l feel that my past thought might start changing”.

Words in this story
agony /noun/agənē/ extreme physical or mental suffering.
icky /adj/ sticky, especially unpleasantly
cruel /adj/  abusive /adj/ abuse /noun/verb/
indispensable /adj/ absolutely necessary.
affirmation /noun/ the action or process of affirming something or being affirmed.
affirm /verb/  declare, state, assert
self-respect /noun/ pride conceit