Emily Levine 2: How I made friends with reality

Emily Levine at TED2018
How I made friends with reality  (transcript)
Summary
Summary
Again, I've read a difficult story. Why l chose this is that l thought l might be able to understand her previous story after reading this. However, l couldn't understand both.
At last, I've written its summary. Does it mean that l can understand this?

The speaker had told the same story in this story and in the previous story. Why are those related because the story seems to be about her friends’ story and the previous one was about her qualities?
Additionally, the end of her words was scary. Is she dying?

She said, "For every audience I've ever had in the past and present, thank you so much for making my life real."

I have something that I'm thinking of those words that I want to say when I face my death.
It's because people said in other TED talks that they wanted to spend time with their family or friends, they worked too much and they should play more when they faced their death. Those are negative words that I don't want to say for my life and my gift. 

The speaker and l have the same thought, don't we?

By skipping the difficult parts of the story, l think that friend in the talk must be death. It's because she said that there is the interaction between life and death, thus defeating death without killing of life doesn’t make sense to her. 

The answer how she made friends with reality is that there are different theories though all things are agreed on one thing, so reality comes into being through an interaction. Reality, life, and death will be friends when we live, work, and do something hard. 

Words in this story
outlandish /adj/ foreign, alien,  weird
withstand /verb/  resist, weather, survive, endure
resistance /noun/ electrical resistance, opposition
resilience /noun/ the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties, toughness.
coherence /noun/ the quality of being logical and consistent.