Elizabeth Lesser 1 : Take “the Other” to lunch

Elizabeth Lesser at TEDWomen 2010
Take “the Other” to lunch  (transcript)
Summary
Starting is negative other-izing and then morph into violent extremism.

"Other" refer to difference. It's the difference a person or thing or one already mentioned or one already known about. 
By adding "ize," the words that are  adjectives and nouns turn to verbs.
"Otherize" and "other-izing" will be used when you say that this is different from you, that is different from you, these are different from you but those are also different. When you always think about others are different, you will be exclusive. It leads to violent extremism but this is our today's world.

The speaker found it from her own personality. She has two primary personalities that have been in conflict and conversation within her.
However, it must help all of us to counteract the tendency to "otherize". Existing two sides is important if we can believe in each other's sincerity. It doesn't try to change the other but just try to talk and have lunch together. It must lead to acknowledging each other 's openness, the differences don't melt, though.

It takes too much time, However, this is the first step to know each other and to reach toward each other. We can throw away the labels, know-it-all, and arrogance. Try to take “the Other” to lunch.

Words in this story
exclusive /adj/ excluding or not admitting other things.
altruistic /adj/ showing a disinterested and selfless concern for the well-being of others; unselfish.
morph /verb/ change smoothly from one image to another by small gradual steps using computer animation techniques.
perceive /verb/ notice, realize  precise /adj/ accurate  precious /adj/ valuable