Brené Brown 2: Listening to shame

TED 2012
Brené Brown 2: Listening to shame   (script)
People seek empathy.
The speaker is Brené Brown.  This is her second TED talk, on which she had said that she had a breakdown about her study. She thought that she who studied shame had put to shame at the big stage. 
However, after that, she noticed that she learned some things from that talk, this time she talked about that.
Vulnerability is not weakness. It can be defined as emotional risk, exposure, and uncertainty. It fuels our daily lives and it is our most accurate measurement of courage.  Being vulnerable and letting ourselves be seen are being honest and having courage.
And then, she thought that people should learn about shame, if they are going to find their way back to each other. Without shame, we cannot have various conversations and dare greatly.
We talk about something that, for example, is about race, or on the TED stage while feeling shame. It closes to us, but we do as daring greatly.
Shame and guilt are quite different. Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. 
Guilt has an adaptability to hold something we've done or failed to do up against we want to be. It's uncomfortable, but it's adaptive, and shame doesn't have.
Shame is healed by empathy.  When we are struggling, the two most powerful words are "me too."  We are not perfect, but it's  okay. We want to be  and work with you. We want you to realize a bit that  we do as daring greatly and we want to realize that you also do. This is our feeling: empathy.
Words in this story
empathy / the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
breakdown / weakness, give up.
uncomfortable / causing or feeling slight pain or physical discomfort. miserable, unhappy.
dare / have the courage to do something.
greatly /adv/ by a considerable amount; very much.